I'm Davina. I am glad you have found me here.
I am a Person-Centred Counsellor working in Hughenden Valley, Bucks (and currently online).
I can't tell you exactly what counselling will be like because it is going to be about you and what you need it to be. I can tell you that we will start where you are. At the moment, that might be something like feeling anxious, alone, stuck and depressed,.
Counselling with me means having real, deep conversations that will help you to work out your stuff* even if you've been avoiding or hiding it. We will work through struggles, figure out how to cope with difficulties and you can find your way towards new perspectives and ways of being that feel good to you.
* issues I work a lot with include depression, anxiety, self-harm, relationship and family difficulties, life changes and identity. Basically our messy, complicated, emotional lives and our hopes to change, grow, to be positive and true.
It may be relevant for you to know, I have experience of supporting NHS staff (both hospital and community services).
A PERSON-CENTRED APPROACH
ADULTS | YOUNG PEOPLE
WORKING WITH ADULTS
My clients turn up as they are (hurt, anxious, lost, confused...) and they can trust me to listen carefully and explore with them. I don't tell them how to live their lives but I am alongside as we dig in, to work out how to make life and relationships feel less difficult, less painful.
When I work with you, you'll have a safe space and you won't be judged. This will be a relationship from where you can reflect, deepen understanding and find new perspectives.
You may need to untangle past experiences, which can be complex and painful. Together, we can understand how you have been affected and from there you can find growth (usually lurking just beyond a comfort zone).
I have particular experience helping men and women struggling with life changes and events that affect our identity and our relationships with others. This might be the shifts and challenges of becoming a parent or trying to move through times of acute uncertainty.
WORKING WITH YOUNG PEOPLE
I give teenagers and young adults a confidential space to explore difficult aspects of life and self. From within a trusting relationship we consider thoughts, emotions and behaviours that are causing distress and find ways to cope with and recover from difficulties. Often our work together is focussed on how to thrive, amid challenges, change and fear.
The type of work I do with young people includes
- educational transitions, challenges and setbacks
- anxiety, depression, self-harming behaviours and suicidal ideations
- coping with changes in the family (e.g. separation and divorce)
- self-esteem, identity and relationship difficulties (including loneliness and bullying)
- young carers
I usually work with young people over 14 years and especially, those in their late teens/early twenties. I appreciate the delicacy in giving my clients a confidential space and also giving parents and family members confidence in the counselling process; I'll work hard to get this right for you both.